Hey all,
I just came across this strange phenomenon of the human psychology called ''nice personality disorder or NPD'' (Totally made up by me). Its basically when you are too nice to people that they tend to take advantage. I first realised this when a relative of mine was in a bit of rough patch financially and wanted some money as loan. He came to my father and asked if he could help. My father owed some money to this guy so he thought he will repay the debt and loan him the extra money. Now this guy he promised he will repay within 4 days. And after four days i realised it was a big mistake. Then started a series of excuses and lies that lasted for more than 7 months. Sometimes he would say he is waiting for clearance of a cheque. Sometimes he says hes waiting for one of his business clients for payment and never would any of his excuses pan out. So after seven months of agitated waiting around, my dad confronted this guy and his brother at their home hoping to get an answer once and for all.
But the story was just getting started,this guy's brother told he will take personal liability for this debt and will repay it in two halves. The first after three months and the other half a month after. My dad and I thought since he gives this guarantee lets wait a bit more. This guy's brother works in UAE so we figured he would have no trouble getting this money. But No. When the time came for repayment, he asked for three more months extra time. Now those three months have also passed. And it has been over 17 months. So i decide i have had enough of this mess. I went to confront him.
While i was on my way to this guy's house, i had the most violent thoughts i have ever had in my life like 'putting him through the walls','smashing his skull in with pipe wrench' kind of thoughts. I reached to his house and rang the door bell,cracking my knuckles getting ready to get violent if i had to. But his daughter opened the door. He came after his daughter called out for him. When i was talking to him, i knew everything he was telling were more lies and excuses but i couldnt get the heart to hurt him . Imagine how you want to punch somebody's face in and at the same time wondering how much he will go through if i hurt him physically, his family they would not be the same after that incident they just witnessed. So i just nodded and walked out feeling like a pushover for being taken for granted by a guy who lies through his teeth
Thats when i realised that i suffer from NPD. And people its a disease . Do you know of a cure?
Bye,
With love, Chikku.
I just came across this strange phenomenon of the human psychology called ''nice personality disorder or NPD'' (Totally made up by me). Its basically when you are too nice to people that they tend to take advantage. I first realised this when a relative of mine was in a bit of rough patch financially and wanted some money as loan. He came to my father and asked if he could help. My father owed some money to this guy so he thought he will repay the debt and loan him the extra money. Now this guy he promised he will repay within 4 days. And after four days i realised it was a big mistake. Then started a series of excuses and lies that lasted for more than 7 months. Sometimes he would say he is waiting for clearance of a cheque. Sometimes he says hes waiting for one of his business clients for payment and never would any of his excuses pan out. So after seven months of agitated waiting around, my dad confronted this guy and his brother at their home hoping to get an answer once and for all.
But the story was just getting started,this guy's brother told he will take personal liability for this debt and will repay it in two halves. The first after three months and the other half a month after. My dad and I thought since he gives this guarantee lets wait a bit more. This guy's brother works in UAE so we figured he would have no trouble getting this money. But No. When the time came for repayment, he asked for three more months extra time. Now those three months have also passed. And it has been over 17 months. So i decide i have had enough of this mess. I went to confront him.
While i was on my way to this guy's house, i had the most violent thoughts i have ever had in my life like 'putting him through the walls','smashing his skull in with pipe wrench' kind of thoughts. I reached to his house and rang the door bell,cracking my knuckles getting ready to get violent if i had to. But his daughter opened the door. He came after his daughter called out for him. When i was talking to him, i knew everything he was telling were more lies and excuses but i couldnt get the heart to hurt him . Imagine how you want to punch somebody's face in and at the same time wondering how much he will go through if i hurt him physically, his family they would not be the same after that incident they just witnessed. So i just nodded and walked out feeling like a pushover for being taken for granted by a guy who lies through his teeth
Thats when i realised that i suffer from NPD. And people its a disease . Do you know of a cure?
Bye,
With love, Chikku.
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